Friends are the best aren’t they! They are the ones that make us smile, laugh and we can just be ourselves with! One of the most important parts of having a great friendship is communication.
What I mean about communication is the way you and your friends tell each other things. For example. How you feel, what you want to do, what you need or what you like and don’t like.
Sometimes though when you are your friends are not communicating very well things can get misunderstood and people can get upset about things. That’s why having good communication is so important!
I am going to share some tips to make sure you and your friends keep those friendships strong.
Tips to have great communication!
- Be a good listener – You need to listen to your friends. When they have something to share or they just need to talk just be there to listen. This will be one of the best ways to be a great friend. You don’t always have to give your advice or tell them what you think at that moment. Unless they ask you of course! Just being a friend who listens, and cares is so important in a friendship. They will always remember that you were there for them to listen to. Remember they should do the exact same for you too.
- Be there for them – You need to be there for your friends. Be there to listen, laugh, cry or have fun with. Knowing they have someone to call or see at school who will always be there with a friendly smile means the world. They need to know they can count on you through thick and thin. Through good times and hard times. Making someone else feel seen by being there for them and caring about what they have to say is such a powerful way to be a great friend.
- Be honest– Always be honest with your friends. If you don’t feel like hanging out, then tell them the truth don’t make things ups. A friendship build on honesty and trust is a rock-solid friendship. If your feelings were hurt because of something, then tell them. Yes, it’s going to be a hard conversation, but it needs to happen. Having a honest and open friendship will be worth the hard conversations you may have to have from time to time. I promise.
- Be YOU – I think this is the most important one! Being you and showing up in your friendship as your silly and fun-loving self is the only way to be! If you must put on an act or do things you don’t like to do to be friends with someone then its time to rethink that friendship. That is not a good friendship. You should be able to be yourself every second of that friendship and not worry about being judged for any reason.
If that person tries to change who you are or put you down for being yourself then you need to distance yourself from that friendship immediately. They are not accepting you for who you are and that is not a good friend to have. That may be hard to do but remember sometimes we must do hard things that gets us outside our comfort zone. You matter and showing up as yourself matters too.