Empathy is being able to put yourself in someone’s else’s shoes and being able to feel what they are feeling. When we teach her about empathy we are teaching her a life lesson that will help her.
This skill is so important to learn about because having empathy for others will help her in her relationships with others and in all aspects of her life.
My daughter has a lot of empathy for others, especially when she feels like other people don’t have a friend. I think one of the best compliments I got was when a mother came up to me after school and said that Grace asked her daughter to sit with her table at lunch. I was so proud of her. When I asked her about the situation she said, I felt sad for her. She doesn’t have a lot of friends and sits alone a lot at school. She actually hurt for this girl inside and put herself in her shoes.
Tips for teaching her about empathy
Teach her to understand your own feelings
Having feelings is normal and being able to name your feelings is just as important. What I mean by this is by saying if you feel sad, disappointed, happy, nervous, excited, or shy. Feeling what you feel is a good thing and I want to remind you that it’s ok to feel and have emotions even the ones that make you feel sad sometimes. Head over to this BLOG POST to learn more about understanding emotions with tweens and teens.
Teach her to listen to others
I mean really listen to someone. Listening to someone’s story and hearing and seeing their emotions inside that story. If they are off on their phone or daydreaming and not listening to that person they aren’t going to have a clue for what they are saying. Being able to step into their shoes and understand their struggles or heartaches will connect them to that person and the feelings they are trying to share. Listening is a superpower and one that should be taken seriously especially with family and friends they care about. Also, having good eye contact and not responding to every single thing they say with a solution is key.
When we teach her about empathy we are teaching her a life lesson that will help her for the rest of her life.